You have just helped Mom get to bed after a hard day. You’re drained—physically and emotionally—and there’s still a list of tasks waiting for your attention. Maybe it was the struggle with getting her to take her medication today, or perhaps the call from a relative who offered well-meaning but unrealistic advice that caused that extra level of stress. Caring for an older loved one can be among the hardest roles you will face in your lifetime. Developing emotional resilience is essential, and it’s the foundation that will help you move forward when the days are difficult.
So how exactly can you build emotional resilience? There are a few simple but effective emotional resilience tips for caregivers you can implement today.
Practice self-compassion and self-care without guilt. Caregiving is oftentimes synonymous with selflessness, but you can’t pour from an empty cup. Practicing self-care doesn’t have to mean taking a two-week vacation (although that would be nice!)—sometimes it means giving yourself ten minutes to read a chapter of a novel, watch your favorite show, or take a short walk around the block. Self-compassion is equally as important. When things don’t go as planned, like a doctor's appointment that becomes a meltdown, it's easy to blame yourself. Instead, try treating yourself with the exact same kindness you would show a friend in your role. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can, and that is enough.
Celebrate the little victories. You will have days when everything feels stressful. It’s easy to focus on the things that didn’t go right, but emotional resilience is built by shifting that focus to the wins, no matter how small they may seem. Did Mom finally smile after days of acting withdrawn? Did you manage to carve out five minutes for a cup of tea while she took a nap? These moments matter. Emotional resilience grows whenever you acknowledge these small victories, as it reminds you that your efforts are making a difference, even though the path is bumpy.
Embrace the things you can control—and release everything you can't. It’s easy to feel like every setback is a reflection on your abilities as a caregiver. Did Mom refuse to eat again today? Did she get frustrated during her physical therapy session? These moments can feel deeply personal. But building emotional resilience starts with recognizing that you cannot control everything. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, make an effort to pay attention to what you can affect. For example, you can’t control whether Mom decides to eat every meal, but you can control offering nutritious and appetizing options. Once you let go of the pressure to correct everything, you give yourself space to concentrate on what you are able to improve.
Create a flexible state of mind. When you are caring for a loved one, plans often change. Maybe today was meant to be an outing to the park, but now it’s a day of coping with a flare-up of medical issues. Emotional resilience isn’t about resisting these changes; it is about flowing with them. Rather than concentrating on what you couldn’t do, think about what’s possible now. Instead of that outing, perhaps it becomes a cozy afternoon watching their favorite movie. Adapting your expectations helps decrease feelings of frustration and disappointment, which ultimately builds a stronger, more resilient mindset.
Lean on your support network. No one can do it alone, and the fact is, you don’t have to. Building emotional resilience means knowing when you should ask for help. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend, joining an online support group, or partnering with The Care Company, sharing your burden lightens it. If a neighbor offers to bring over dinner, say yes. If a family member offers to sit with Mom for an hour, let them. It’s not a sign of weakness to accept help; in fact, it’s an indication of strength as it shows you are committed to sustaining yourself for the long haul.
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